Tesha's Favorite Couple #5

BLACK LOVE

This has to be my favorite couple of ALL TIME! Well, other than me and the booskie. They are the epitome of what Black Love should be.

So often we see loving relationships between black men and black women as somewhat dysfunctional, scarce, and rare. I believe that black men and black women will learn to love each other once they learn to love themselves and accept each other’s faults.

Black women need to learn that you can’t change a man unless he wants to be changed and that a little submissiveness is not a bad thing. So often black women try to be the strong “Superwoman” types, but fail to realize that being overly strong-willed will prevent them from getting a man. A man wants to feel like a man at all times. Sure I can open my own door, assemble my own furniture, hell even open up that jar of pickles, but in order to let my man know that he is still needed and wanted I let him do it for me. Why? Because a man still wants to be a man. [Period]

Black men need to realize that in order for us to treat them like a man, they need to step up to the plate and BE A MAN! It’s no problem to have fun and be young, but if all you do is sit with your boys playing video games and refuse to be responsible, then we have a problem. You can’t complain about a woman acting like your mom if you continue to act like a child. You have to understand that the reason black women have had to create this hard exterior and become “Superwomen” is because you have caused them to be this way. When a void appears, someone is going to step up to the plate to fill it. Black men, you must learn to love your women again. No every female is not a woman and you must know the difference, but all in all you must love black women ACCEPTING their faults.

My favorite couple is Barack and Michelle Obama. I love how they seemingly mesh so well together. They truly complement each other. I love how even though Michelle is/ was more successful than Barack in the beginning, she never allowed that to deter the fact that he is THE MAN in her life. I love how they always sneak intimacy in their lives no matter what is going on. A fist bump here, a pat on the butt there, a peck on the lips, it doesn’t matter you know through their subtle PDA they are still in love after 18 years of marriage.




They are the couple I hope to be with my honey.

&hearts Tesha

Tales from the Kama Sutra #3

Ahhh..yes. It's time for another segment of "Tales from the Kama Sutra." Where I help you mind come up with new exciting positions. Whether you are a closet freak or an outspoken freak, Tales from the Kama Sutra is here to guide you in all your sexual position endeavors.
This position is well known. We've all done it one time or another, whether we meant to or not. This position is called Spooning. Or as I like to call it "How sex gets started by accident"




Lay with your back to your partner. A good way to get things heated up is to gyrate into his pelvic area and control how fast he gets excited. Soon, he'll be very excited and take over heating things up. And all you have to do is enjoy the ride...literally

&hearts Tesha

Dear Tesha....

Dear Tesha,

I'm in a long distance relationship with my high school sweetheart. I get to see him maybe a few times per month. Almost everyday he tells me how horny he is but sometimes when he comes home, I'm just not in the mood. I want to do something special, something different for him while he's out of town so that when I see him again he knows that I want him as much as he wants me. I'm thinking about sending him a freaky text message, but I don't know what to say and I'm nervous. Help what do I get started?

XOXO
Sexting in GA


I can totally relate to being horny in a long distance relationship. When you are ready and in the mood, they aren't there. But when they get in town and are hot and heavy, you're out of the mood because you've waited so long. Women are finicky creatures (trust me), but in order to 1. do something special for him and 2. put yourself in the mood for him. Try sending him sext messages. Here's how to get started:

• Start the text message subtly. Send him a message telling him how much you miss him and wish he was there. You don't want to just jump right in and say, "I wanna fuck" because he won't be able to do anything about it any time soon. Slow and steady wins the race.

• Next empathize with him. Tell him that you are as horny as he is and can't wait until you can see him again. This will get his attention and start to set the tone of the messages to follow. I can almost guarantee that once you tell him how horny you are, he's already going to start sending you sexual messages. Don't be alarmed, match him for his every text.

• You want to let him know what type of things runs through your mind when he is not there. Basically, you want to get your foreplay going...mobilely. Tell him you like it when he does [insert action] to you and that when he does it, it makes you feel so good. Tell him you like it when he puts his tongue and lips on your [neck, back, legs, etc] and can't wait until he can do it again.

• Recall the last time you guys had sex; the place, time, emotions, details that stand out, maybe a joke. Send him the details of your last sexcapade, romance novel style. Be descriptive! You want to be so detailed, he can literally see each and every word in his mind.

• Now that you have him excited with every text you send him, let him know that the conversation is making you horny and that you are touching yourself thinking about it (even if you aren't). Most guys get more turned on by the fact that you are turned on. This action will push him to the edge to the point that when he sees you again, expect to be busy getting busy.

• Wait about 5 minutes before you send him the last message. Which could be a picture message of you in your skivvies!

• Expect him to respond about 3-5 minutes later....relieved. End the messages with smiley faces and I love yous and prepare yourself to be Sext Away the next time he comes into town
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Hope this helps! Happy Adventures in sex!

♥ Tesha


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Tesha's Favorite Couple #4

We know them, they are considered American royalty. He a ruler and she his queen. They are the definition of what it means to love a person "through thick and thin. for better or for worse" My favorite couple today is Bill and Hillary Clinton. It amazes me that as President, Hillary stood by her man no matter what. Through tumultuous affairs and tough decisions she was there for him. Also, as Hillary became Secretary of State, Bill was there to support his wife and give her advice on how she could be her best. We all need that, true support from our significant other. There is a deep level of respect they have for each other and I love that!



I love this picture of them in their younger years, because it's so sexy and intimate. It's a side of them we rarely see, but know exists. There's nothing like a stolen moment and a stolen kiss to get your "engines revving."

&hearts Tesha