Get it right. Keep it tight.

Kegel Exercises

It’s crazy to me that there are still women in the world who have never heard of or done this life changing exercise. If you are the type of woman to have sex often, whether you are in a committed relationship or you’re a woman of the night, you have to keep it tight if not for yourself then at least for him. But I hope you do it for yourself because it has a lot of health benefits.



If you didn’t realize before, your vagina is a muscle. When you overexert it, it has a tendency to lose its shape and vitality. So what do you do when your muscle becomes weak? You EXERCISE it!!!! That is where Kegel Exercises come in.

What is it? (Courtesy of Talk Sex with Sue)

Kegel exercises (pronounced "kaygel") are a series of simple exercises you can do anywhere, any time that help to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles.

What are the benefits?

Think about it. If there is anything you can do to drive your man wild when he has sex with you, a tight cooch will do it. But seriously, Kegel exercises are especially great for women who recently gave birth and want to tighten up loose vaginal muscles. It’s also great for older women who have urinary problems. Healthy women of any age can benefit from it sexually. And when you think about it, that’s what we all want right? A healthy sex life.

How to get that wet and tight (Courtesy of Every Day Health)
Kegel exercises are done by squeezing the muscles in the pelvic floor and holding for short periods of time.

Find the right muscles. One way to isolate the right muscle is by trying to stop the flow of urine the next time you go to the bathroom. The muscle you use to do that is the muscle you should engage while doing a Kegel. Another way to test is to put your finger into your vagina and try to squeeze it. Don’t be afraid to ask your gynecologist for help if you’re having a hard time finding the right muscle. The key is to isolate these pelvic floor muscles and use them alone. It’s easy to squeeze the muscles in the buttocks and abdomen at the same time, so pay attention to your body and make sure you’re working the right muscle.

Start slow and build up. If you’re new to Kegel exercise, start slow. Squeeze your pelvic muscle and hold for two to four seconds, then relax. Try to repeat 5 to 10 times. As this exercise gets easier, you can hold for longer periods of time and do increased repetitions.

Do your Kegels regularly: Once you have the technique down, you can do Kegel exercises any time and any place that you like. For instance, you could do a set every time you check your e-mail, or when you’re waiting for the bus, or stuck in traffic.

Also, when you become a novice with the Kegels, turn it up by adding Ben-Wa balls to the mix. Ben-Wa balls are little weighted metallic balls that you insert into your vagina that help you to control those pelvic muscles.



Try it one day when you are doing house work or just relaxing. Insert the Ben-Wa balls and walk around panty less to see how long you can go without them falling. The longer they stay in, the stronger your vajayjay.

♥ Tesha

A funny thing happened at the bachelorette party

I went to my first bachelorette party last weekend. It was sooooo much fun. The sisterhood and comradery that goes on when a woman you care about gets married is priceless. Even better is the raunchy, sexual, explicit things that go on when the drinks start flowing. I can’t surrender the details, but I will share one funny quip from the festivities.

Sweet Dick Suckers from Starship-Elations


Quote of the weekend
“I guess I’ll be sucking dick for the rest of my life” –The Blushing Bride
Congratulations to the happy couple on their new life together!!!!
♥ Tesha

BOB

With BOB was the first time I squirted. I honestly didn’t know women could skeet, but after being with BOB I was a believer.

I made sure the last file was in my boss’ mail box, turned off my phone, shut down my computer, and turned off the light in my station. I was lucky to not have any work to take home this weekend. I loved being a personal assistant, but sometimes it could get very tiring and affect my social life. I hadn’t had a boyfriend in several months and I hadn’t gotten laid in a few weeks. I was just ready to get home, take a nice hot bubble bath, and curl up with a nice book when my best friend Donna called me.

“Hey girl, what are you up to?” she said.

“On my way home, about to relax. What’s up with you?” I say.

“Not much. You got plans for tonight?” She asked.

“I was planning on relaxing and reading. Why?” I reply.

“Well, my cousin is throwing this party and I was trying to invite your mean ass. What you say?” she says.

“Well, tell me more about this party and I will consider going.” I tell her sarcastically.

“It is a party you don’t want to miss. You will get to meet some new people, have a good time, plus they have food and drinks. So why not? What else are you going to do, watch The Notebook…again?” she chided.

Okay she had a point, I had made it a routine to come home on a Friday night and curl up watching sappy love stories until I cried myself to sleep or read an erotic novel until I got horny and annoyed. It was time to deviate from the norm.

“Alright. Fine. I’ll be ready by 9. You picking me up right?” I asked.

“Yeah, yeah, I got you.” She replied.

“Alrighty then. Bye.” I tell her.

“Bye.”

My phone rings, but the ringtone tells me who it is, Donna. She is always early. Yeah I know I told her I would be ready by 9, but damn can’t I be fashionably late sometimes?

“Yeah, I’m on my way down. Give me a sec.” I say as I looked in the mirror.

I finished putting on my makeup and ensuring that my outfit was nice. I didn’t know what kind of party I was going to so I ensured that my outfit could fit in any situation. It was sexy enough for me to be any guy’s eye candy, but sophisticated enough as to not be looked at like a slut.

I get into Donna’s car and of course she lets me have it for being late, as always.
“You must have some sort of gene that inhibits you from actually being on time,” Donna scolded.

“Girl, we’re going to a party. We’ll probably be the first ones there. Chill out,” I told her.

We drive North on 285 and get off the S. Atlanta exit and make a left.

“Okay, I have to tell you the truth about this party,” Donna says.

“The Truth? What truth is there to tell? Is it like one of those orgy sex party kind of deals? I don’t know if I’m down for that!” I exclaimed.

“Well it’s not exactly an orgy sex party. Have you ever heard of a ‘Pure Romance’ party?” She asked me.

“A ‘Pure Romance’ party? Is that one of those things where women get together with the sex toys and all that jazz?” I asked.

“Yeah, something like that. My cousin is hosting it. Kerrie is the name of the lady who is coming with all the goodies. She is going to give us a true lesson in loving yourself and about all the sex toys in her arsenal. It’s going to be fun. Just keep an open mind,” she expressed.

I’ve thought about getting a sex toy before, but I really didn’t see what the point of getting one was since I always had dick in my life…well until now. What’s the harm? There weren’t any guys lying at my feet ready and willing to give me the action I needed so…what the hell?

“Alright, you sneaky bitch. I’ll keep an open mind,” I said.

We arrive to a gated luxury apartment complex and drive towards the center of the community until we come upon the “R” building. Donna parks the car and turns off the engine.

“You ready for your mind to get expanded?” She chuckled.

We get to apartment number R217. I could hear laughter, music, and chatter before we even made it to the top of the stairs.

Donna knocks on the door, but no one answers. She knocks harder and the door swings open to reveal a tall gorgeous exotic looking woman.

“¡Doña! ¿Como estas?” the woman exclaimed with much excitement.

“¡Muy bien! ¿Que Tal?” Donna asked in Spanish.

“Aww, well you know how it goes. Work. Life. Men. And then we do it again,” the Amazon answered, thick Spanish accent sugarcoating every syllable.

“Bella, this is Sophi. Sophi, this is Bella,” Donna introduced.

“Nice to meet you Bella. I take it you are Donna’s cousin?” I asked.

“Do we not look alike? Look at that face.” Bella exclaimed as she grabbed Donna’s cheeks.

“Come in. Come in. Make yourself at home. Mi casa…” Bella told me.

I walked into Bella’s immaculately decorated apartment. There were plenty of women talking and laughing and having a good time. The TV was on and had an episode of Zane’s Sex Chronicles showing. It was my kind of party and I had only been in attendance for a few moments.

“OK mis amigas. Kerrie will be ready in dos minutos. She is getting her trunk of goodies together for us. Please drink my wine and eat my food.” Bella said with a chuckle.

After a couple of minutes, a beautiful curvaceous woman walked out with a huge pink trunk with wheels.

“Good evening my darling vixens. How are you all tonight?” said the curvaceous woman.

The room of ladies answered, “Fine.”

“Alright. My name is Kerrie and I’ll be your instructor tonight. Who wants to get a lesson in sexual pleasure?” said Kerrie.

We all raised our hands eagerly like kids at a school house.

“Okay students. A few rules before we begin. We’re going to play Sexy Bingo. I’m going to give everyone a piece of paper and booklet that has all my goodies listed. On the piece of paper, if there is something you see and you like go ahead and mark it so you can remember. In about 45 minutes I’m going to call out some items, if you have all the items called you win the first prize,” She informed us.

“My next rule, everyone here is to be open minded and have fun. I don’t want to see anyone here not having a good time. And lastly, drink up. The party is always more fun when the liquor is pouring.” She told us. “Alright, shall we begin?”

The first items she showed us were some edible and sensual body lotions and oils. Out of all the lotions and oils she showed us, my favorite was the self-heating, edible, strawberries and cream body butter. Kerrie demonstrated on one willing participant how it works exactly.

“I’m going to rub the body butter in the palm of my hands to warm it up and turn it into a body oil. Then I will rub it on her arm like so.” She instructed.

She rubbed the woman’s arm with the oil, slowly. The woman exhaled as if she was stifling a moan and continued to be caressed by Kerrie.

“Now that the oil has heated up, you can now lick your arm to taste,” Kerrie told the woman.

The woman licked her arm and exclaimed, “MMM! That’s actually good! I like that. Anybody else want to taste?”

Bella, in all her gorgeousness, stood up and erotically licked the woman’s forearm. I was scared to say out loud, but I was deeply turned on by that display of lesbianism.

Kerrie showed us devices to enhance sexual pleasure like handcuffs, whips, paddles, ticklers, and blindfolds. I wasn’t too interested in that stuff because like I said, I was manless. I’ll have to catch her when I get someone in my life again.

What finally piqued my interest were the dildos, vibrators, and bullets. As soon as she pulled the first one out my pussy began to get moist.

Kerrie presented us with the “Triple Threat” bullet. It was a bullet that can please your clitoris, vagina, and your ass. I was enjoying it. I had already marked about 10 things on my Bingo card, but I would certainly make room for the right bullet and vibrator. As soon as I started to fall in love with the “Triple Threat,” I met BOB.

BOB was everything I wanted and could hope for. He was big. I mean he was wide and long. I knew he could fill me and even better satisfy my every need. The best thing about BOB was that he could multitask exceptionally well. BOB could stroke. BOB could pulsate. BOB had rotating beads that promised to hit every sensitive nerve inside me. BOB was everything and I had to have him.

I couldn’t wait for the presentations to be over so I could be formally introduced to BOB and have him to myself. I knew good things came to those who waited and I was waiting so I could cum later.

Kerrie ended the presentation with calling out the Bingo items. “French Tickler. Head Game. Triple Threat. Booty Eaze. Like A Virgin. And the Jack Rabbit.” She called out.
“I won! I won! What I win Kerrie?” said a short, brown-hair Hispanic woman, who I recognized as Donna’s sister Esperanza.

“Well, my dear, you have won a complimentary silver bullet and a trail size of the Strawberry Body Butter,” Kerrie told Esperanza.

Kerrie gave her the prizes, to which Esperanza gladly and graciously took.
“Okay ladies. If you are ready to order, follow me to the back so I can get you your goodies,” She told us.

I practically bum rushed my way to the back to get the chance to have BOB in my life. I met him in person and paid my dues so I could get home to be “formally” introduced.

“Hey Donna. Girl you ready to go? I have a long list of things to do tomorrow and I’m getting kinda tired.” I lied.

“Mmm hmmm. You not tired. But I’ll take you home anyway. Bella and I are supposed to be going to Salsa Ciudad later and I have to get dressed. Come on hussy!” She said knowing my sense of urgency was for BOB.

I smiled to myself. Happy that BOB and I would have the chance to be alone. Anticipating what he had to offer me.

I take him home and give him a quick wash. I want him to be ready for me. I put on some soft music to get my mind in the mood to be at one with my unconventional lover.

I tease myself by placing him at the opening to my vagina. I feel my body shiver from the joy that is building inside of me. I stop teasing myself and finally insert him all the way into my pussy. He’s everything I imagined him to be. He has girth and size and weight. Oh my goodness he felt heavy inside of me, but I liked it.

He was turning me on, but I hadn’t even had the chance to turn him on. When I did…
I turned BOB on and instantly he started to whiz to life. He began to whirl his beads inside me. His stimulated my clit with his humming vibrations of ecstasy. He took me to the edge of the universe and I didn’t want to return.

I tried my best to maintain my composure, but it was a useless effort. BOB new exactly how to please me and he didn’t disappoint.

“Oh God! BOB! BOB! BOB! What are you doing to me?” I thought to myself as I came.

I came and I came and I came until I was spent. That was the first time I was intimate with BOB, my Battery Operated Boyfriend.

Mmmm....Reflexology. The New Massage.

I remember when the beau first learned reflexology, he wanted to use me as his guinea pig. Not that I was going to tell him no. I recall having a headache that day and really not wanting to be bothered, but he persisted and it helped that he told me he could get rid of my headache with a simple touch.

Now no matter what I’m going through or what I’m doing my mind stays in the gutter, but he assured me that it wasn’t what I thought and that we’ll get to that later. But he could massage the headache away or rather reflex it away.

Of course I didn’t believe him, but I love and support him so I was willing to see what it was he had to offer. He took my hand in his and traced my palm with his fingers making my hand tingle. He started telling me about reflexology, the benefits, and then tried it out on me.

What is it?

Reflexology is a treatment that involves the application of gentle pressure to reflex points located on all of the surfaces of the feet and hands.

What are the benefits?

To name a few:

• Improves blood circulation
• Boosts immune system
• Relieves aches and pain
• Alleviates problems associated with the reproductive system
• Restores mental alertness
• Calms an overactive mind
• Reduces emotional turmoil
• Increases positive emotions
• Soothes fears and anxiety
• Encourages spiritual growth and development
• Reflexology, with the addition of aromatherapy, can help with emotional problems like depression or self-esteem.

TRY IT!!!!

The pressure circle technique

Usually performed using the pad of the thumb, it is particularly useful for treating more sensitive reflexes on the hand.

Step 1

Select an area on your left hand, and then, using your right thumb, circle gently and slowly over the area, keeping your thumb in contact with the point

Step 2

To practice on your partner, gently cup his or her right hand, palm facing up, in the palm of your left hand. Place your right hand, working themb on a reflex point on the palm of the receiver’s hand and then slowly and gently circle over the area, keeping your thumb in contact with the point. Note that any initial tenderness will quickly subside after a few pressure circles have been performed.

Check out Health Inspiration's Reflexology book by Denise Whichello Brown

TRY IT OUT AND LET ME KNOW HOW IT GOES!!!

♥ Tesha

Bag Ladies Radio

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I have some exciting news to share with you!!!

I'm going to be on Bag Ladies Radio tomorrow, Tuesday, at 8:00pm EST talking about my most recent post Chilli's Wants Are Not Your Needs. I was approached by the Beautiful Lady Erin to be on their Tuesday Night show, so of course I had to say yes. I hope all the single ladies who tune in tomorrow gets something from the program.

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♥ Tesha